Do you worry all the time? Are you afraid of what the future will bring? That is a bad place to be. We know that, because of the Law of Attraction, we will get whatever we focus on. If we focus on the bad things that may happen in the future, we will find that is what will come into our lives. We worry about terrorism, about global warming, about poverty and starvation, about drugs, and about pollution. Most of us worry about being involved in a war; yet we spend very little time thinking about what peace would look like, let alone how to create peace. We focus on what we do not want; we focus on what we are afraid may happen in the future.
There are two different kinds of fear. Real (healthy) fear is what you feel when something bad is happening to you right now, or when you know that it will happen very soon.
Psychological fear, such as worry, is something your mind makes up. All your mind knows about is what happened in the past, so it takes the negative experiences of the past and projects them into the future. You guess about what might happen in the future. Since you can not know for sure what is going to happen, it is impossible for you to deal with it. You can only deal with what you know is going on right now.
Richard Carlson points out that there are two different ways to react to a situation. We can be reactive to it, or we can be responsive to it. Being worried encourages you to be in a reactive state of mind. When we become aware of how we deal with situations, we can deal with them more constructively. When you notice yourself being in a reactive state of mind, you can simply say to yourself something like "Whoops, there I go again". The awareness that it is much better to be more responsive will pull you out of the reactive mode.
When we are in the reactive mode, we are impatient. We feel stressed, pressured, and quick to judge. We make quick decisions that we often regret. We annoy other people and tend to bring out the worst in them. We are rigid and stubborn. If an opportunity presents itself, we are usually too overwhelmed or frustrated to see it; and we often think that it is too risky or beyond our capabilities. Our judgment and decision making capacity is severely impaired. We lose perspective and take things personally. We over-analyze things. There is a whirlwind of thoughts passing through our minds; and the more we focus on them, the more tired we become and the worse we feel. We are focused on what is lacking and on what is wrong, and that just makes us angry and frustrated.
When we are in the responsive mode, on the other hand, we are relaxed and have our bearings. We are focused and on purpose. We can differentiate between what is important and what is not. We see the bigger picture and we take things less personally. We are flexible and calm. We bring out the best in others and solve problems gracefully. Our minds are open to new opportunities and we are open to considering different options.
We worry because we are attached to an outcome. We are worried that we will not get the result we want, when we want it. It is really important to us that everything occurs just the way we want it to. That just creates unnecessary pressure, and invites fear of failure.
When we are unattached to an outcome, we can enjoy the process, acquire the confidence we need, and relax. We know that even if we do not get what we want when we want, everything will be all right. We simply move on and know that we will do better next time. We know that we will ultimately get what we want or maybe something even better than that.
Worrying is clearly detrimental to our happiness and our success. It takes courage and practice to let go of fearful thoughts. Practice ignoring any fearful or worrisome thoughts that enter your mind. Gently but firmly let them go. They will return, so you must keep on letting them go again and again until they disappear completely. Gently shoo them off and dismiss them as they come up. It may be difficult, but you will find it is well worth the effort.
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Tracy Crowe is the author of this article. For more ideas about how to be truly successful, visit http://www.reachingmypotential.com
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